16th April 2010, 10.45am
Men are most prone to argue when they have made a mistake or upset the woman they love.
Due to he is not validating her point of view or speaking in a caring way and her disapproval in her tone of voice wounded her man, argument arises. In the beginning of a relationship, she gives him the message that she approves him or he feels confident that he can win her approval and feel loved. Women commonly interrogate about his behavior with a disapproving tone. They do this because they think it will teach him a lesson. However it does not provide a lesson but creates fear and resentment to him. Gradually, he becomes less and less motiveted to show his love.
Here are some solutions:
1.communicate with a loving, validating and approving attitude
2.accept and understand that no one is perfect
3.see IT(the argument) coming and lie it low for awhile,take a time out to center yourself
4.to approve is to find the loving intention or the goodness behind the outside behavior.
~sometimes silent moments or nothing to say do not mean hung up the phone, it's the companion and being there that matter~
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