WHY ARGUMENTS HURT

31st March 2010, 9.10pm
It is not what it was said but how it was said:
A man unknowingly hurt his partner by speaking in an uncaring manner and then goes on explain why she should not be upset. He mistakenly assumes she is resisting the content of his point of view, when really his unloving delivery is what upsets her. When a man neglects to honor a woman's hurt feelings he invalidates them and increases her hurt. It is hard for him to understand her hurt because he is not as vulnerable to uncaring comments and tones. On the other hand, woman start and escalate arguments by first sharing negative feelings about their partner's behaviour and then by giving unsolicated advice. When a woman feels her relationship being challenged the tone of her speech automatically becomes increasingly mistrusting and rejecting. This kind of rejection which woman unaware of is more hurtful to a man, especially when he is emotionally involved. However knowing these truth will not be sufficient enough to solve the problem, I've not finish reading the solution yet, shall post it next time, sorry to keep you in suspense.

~credits to men are from mars, women are from venus~

Starry Starry Night

28th March 2010, 12.40pm
I took off from home when the dawn was not broken for 'cheng beng'. Along the winding roads, i see this outside. It's been long since i last saw this scenery, perhaps the last time i recalled was in my national service campsite in 2006.
The universe could be so beautiful. How i wish i could lie down on wide soft grass to admirer the starry starry sky which bring me one step closer to wisdom. The stare you gave me the first time was so memorable that i can't forget it till today. It made me felt so heavy and blue.

This song naturally blended in:
Starry starry night, paint your palette blue and grey
Look out on a summer's day with eyes that know the darkness in my soul
Shadows on the hills, sketch the trees and the daffodils
Catch the breeze and the winter chills, in colors on the snowy linen land

THE ANSWER

28th March 2010, 12.05am
I couldn't sleep so i decided to let this out,
It's heartache to realise things are no longer the same,
Not for the better but inversely,
I'm tired of raising the same issue, being unappreciated and taken for granted,
I am still willing to wait for what it used to be to return one day,
Enlightenment, Laughter, Assurance, Appreciation, Commitment, Trust and Fate,
But my tolerance will hit its limit,
When i'm no longer able to live in this continuous darkness,
I will choose to live without it,
Please forgive my cruelty that time,
I'm afraid of getting hurted and burned once again,
This feeling is unbearable.

~silence is golden when you choose to escape reality, things are out of our control sometimes, so stop thinking!whether it's the past or future~

song which easily get into my mind

Whats somebody like you, doing in a place like this?

say, did you come alone? or did you bring all your friends.

say, whats your name, what you drinking

i think i know what you're thinking

baby whats your sign, tell me yours ill tell you mine

say, whats somebody like you doing in a place like this

CHORUS: I'll never be the same - if we ever meet again

Won't let you get away-ay - say, if we ever meet again

This free fall's, got me so

Kiss me all night, don't ever let me go

I'll never be the same if we ever meet again

say if we ever meet again

Do you come here much? I swear I've seen your face before

Hope you don't see me flash,

but I cant help but want you more, more

Baby tell me whats your story I ain't shy, don't you worry

I'm flirting with my eyes, wanna leave with you tonight

So do you come here much,

I gotta see your face some more, some more coz baby I

CHORUS: I'll never be the same - if we ever meet again

Won't let you get away-ay - say, if we ever meet again

This free fall's, got me so

Kiss me all night, don't ever let me go

I'll never be the same if we ever meet again

If we ever meet again

I'll have so much more to say (if we ever meet again)

If we ever meet again

i wont let you go away (said if we ever meet again)

If we ever ever meet again

i'll have so much more to say (say if we ever meet again)

If we ever ever meet again

i wont let you go away-ay-ay

REPEAT CHORUS

~no matter how much i do, i don't seem to make you pleased~

february babies

12th March 2010, 3.40pm
The enjoyment i had in february before things changed.

~will not do much talking from now onwards and listen more~no longer sharing of gossips,discussion of any random topics

missing all these

10th March 2010, 6.40pm
Here I am back to my homeground, with money can't buy learning experience and exposure, of course not forgetting the luxury i enjoyed in Marriott Manila, credits to the sponsor of CFA Malaysia.

do i have the corporate look?

the team which i've been spending time with for the last 2 months

this is us in casual: hamdhaan, jack, farah, mabel and me

the bed which is even bigger than my bed at home and i have all to myself =)

a large lcd screen tv and a mini workplace, could just spend the whole day in this all in one room

with a glassed bathroom,is seen through from the bed, but you could adjust the curtain down if you are sharing the room with someone

the leather couch which you could comfortably sleep on it

slippers provided for light travellers

soak in the bath tub after a full day of stress

and even a bathrobe catered if you do not have a sleeping pyjamas

when you are out of the hotel:

phillippines traditional costumes

the so called 'ball' to me, it's a globe, outside mall of asia, claimed to be the biggest mall in asia

figuring out how to manage the chopsticks and put the sushi into his mouth made him so emo =)

sushi for lunch before boarding the plane

half way back to where i started

~it's time to be on track with the studies,4 months time i'll be travelling again,whee!~

human nature

3rd March 2010, 8.00pm
People, including me tend to act out of their circle of life sometimes without noticing someone may get offended, just to make themselves stand out from the crowd. But what goes around comes around, one day you will encounter others who generally present themselves better than you do and you will feel threatened. You will not feel this last time as you were once in the person's shoe, but you will feel it when you are playing one of the crowd's role now. So when you feel this, try sitting back and ask for your trusted and soulmate's advice. It will definitely make you feel better and realised you are not always the player. You can perform as well being a low profile person, it's the quality that counts!

~it's hard to balance between maintaining a good relationship with others and sustaining self-consciousness~